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How the soul heals<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Drawing on their therapeutic experience and personal life stories, Wilfried Nelles, Malte Nelles, and Thomas Ge\u00dfner describe spiritual healing as a process that happens not through struggle, but through surrender.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Healing encompasses more than the relief of symptoms and illness. It takes place as an event beyond our control in our bodies and souls. We do not make it happen. Wherever it occurs, it comes into our lives as a miracle, a mystery, and a gift.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Excerpt from Healing<\/a> (in German)<\/p>\n <\/p>\n 160 pages | Paperback | \u20ac14.80 | at Thalia<\/a> | at Amazon<\/a><\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_divider _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_divider][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=”1_4,3_4″ _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”1_4″ _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/gessner-aufstellungen.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/Cover-Der-blaue-Fisch.jpg” title_text=”The blue fish” url=”https:\/\/gessner-aufstellungen.de\/der-blaue-fisch-ueber-den-zeitgeist\/” _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” box_shadow_style=”preset2″ global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=”3_4″ _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” link_option_url=”https:\/\/gessner-aufstellungen.de\/der-blaue-fisch-ueber-den-zeitgeist\/” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n<\/section>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_divider _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_divider][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=”1_4,3_4″ _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”1_4″ _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/gessner-aufstellungen.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/2018-02-06-Cover-II-Gessner_RZ_20180205_2.jpg” alt=”How we love” title_text=”How we love” url=”https:\/\/gessner-aufstellungen.de\/thomas-gessner-wie-wir-lieben\/” _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” box_shadow_style=”preset2″ global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=”3_4″ _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” link_option_url=”https:\/\/gessner-aufstellungen.de\/thomas-gessner-wie-wir-lieben\/” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n In this book, I explore how unconscious love influences our lives.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n In the first part, we take a look at the inner echoes of our past. When these echoes become active in the present, our behaviour, feelings and thoughts mirror those of teenagers, children or unborn babies in the womb. These echoes demonstrate how ‘dependent love’ reliably safeguarded us long before birth, throughout childhood and into adolescence.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n The second part of the book examines the other side of love: ‘self-love’. Rather than being concerned with survival and control, it is concerned with development and devotion. Using the consciousness model and the Life Integration Process (LIP) developed by Wilfried Nelles as a basis, we explore how self-love can lead us to a more relaxed adulthood.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n The third part uses typical examples to demonstrate how, when and why we unconsciously activate the survival skills and rescue patterns of dependent love from the past, even in the present day. As soon as we acknowledge these inner ‘echoes’ and entrust ourselves to the present moment, we feel calmer and freer. In the process, the basic features of a psychology of presence become apparent.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n ISBN 978-3-942502-88-7 | 232 pages | Paperback | \u20ac16.50 (Germany) \/ \u20ac17.00 (Austria) | 2nd edition, Innenweltverlag, Cologne, 2022.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_divider _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_divider][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=”1_4,3_4″ _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”1_4″ _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/gessner-aufstellungen.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/Cover-NL.jpg” title_text=”Cover NL” url=”https:\/\/www.bol.com\/nl\/nl\/p\/hoe-we-liefhebben\/9300000156112913\/” url_new_window=”on” _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” box_shadow_style=”preset2″ global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=”3_4″ _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” link_option_url=”https:\/\/www.bol.com\/nl\/nl\/p\/hoe-we-liefhebben\/9300000156112913\/” link_option_url_new_window=”on” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n Thomas Gessner beschrijft hoe overlevingsstrategie\u00ebn van vroeger opnieuw actief kunnen worden. Zodra we deze echo\u2019s erkennen wordt het leven in het \u2018nu\u2019 stiller, vrijer en krachtiger. Kun je jezelf zien vanuit een helder en oordeelloos perspectief? Thomas Gessner onderzoekt deze vraag door te beschrijven hoe liefde ons leven vormt. Dit gebeurt vaak onbewust vanuit een innerlijke drijfveer die niets anders wil dan overleven. Vanuit het heden kijkt Gessner naar ons verleden, ons \u2018toen\u2019. Wat deed, voelde en dacht je als jongere, als klein kind en als ongeboren kind? Gessner ziet in het \u2018toen\u2019 een kracht die voor ons overleven zorgt en zich daarbij niet vergist: de Afhankelijke Liefde. De andere pool van liefde die Gessner beschrijft is de Zelfliefde. Deze zorgt voor groei en zoekt naar ontwikkeling en overgave. De Zelfliefde kan leiden naar innerlijke volwassenheid. Naar een eerlijk en ontspannen leven in het \u2018nu\u2019. Tenslotte laat Gessner zien hoe overlevingsstrategie\u00ebn van vroeger opnieuw actief kunnen worden in situaties die vergelijkbaar lijken met die van toen. Conflicten, symptomen of crises kunnen we zien als innerlijke echo\u2019s uit het verleden. 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We ourselves and our development appear as an expression of the ‘longing of life for itself’. <\/p>\n The Life Integration Process, as a constellation format, enables adults to reflect on their youth, childhood and time in the womb with self-awareness. The representatives for these life stages reveal what is relevant in each case. You confront yourself, so to speak, and thereby create a certain distance from yourself. This process is healing because much emotional suffering stems from our inability to realise the temporal distance from things that may have burdened us. This applies to traumas, identifications and ‘shadows’ in general.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Innenweltverlag K\u00f6ln, 2014. Unfortunately, the book is out of print. 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Wilfried Nelles developed the LIP in 2011, using his consciousness model in constellation work. This model is based on the observation that human life progresses through different stages. Each of the seven stages contains its own horizon of experience and developmental opportunity, resulting in a specific way of accessing the world. Each stage has a consciousness that can be clearly distinguished from those of the other stages.<\/p>\n