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About the Zeitgeist

About the Zeitgeist

I feel like that blue fish in the South Seas that you’ve probably heard of. One morning, his neighbour asked him how he found the water that day. The blue fish replied, startled: ‘What water?’ This illustrates the premise of my experiment on the zeitgeist and its role in the interplay between the collective and the individual. We will have to leave the water for a few moments in order to perceive a little of the zeitgeist that surrounds us.

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‘The end of diversity. Corona as a psychological and political crisis.’ An essay by Malte Nelles

‘The end of diversity. Corona as a psychological and political crisis.’ An essay by Malte Nelles

The coronavirus is bringing to light what has been hidden beneath the surface. Just as inner and interpersonal conflicts are becoming apparent in many people’s personal lives, the psychology of our public and political life is also being affected by the pandemic. The reign of fear, the fragmentation of the reality in which we live, the fall into outdated absolute categories of right and wrong, good and evil, the separation between what we pretend to be and what we actually do, are some of the neurotic symptoms with which the virus has infected not people’s bodies but the public mind. A psychological analysis of what is happening may perhaps bring to the surface some of what is going on in Germany in the debate about the coronavirus.

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Pandemic and truth

Pandemic and truth

Every major crisis brings to light what has been waiting to reveal itself for a long time. We seem to unconsciously fall back on what saved us in the past, both individually and collectively. However, almost none of this helps anymore, because today is not the past. What role does truth play in this, and what truth helps us?

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Coronavirus and death

Coronavirus and death

Contribution by Dr Wilfried Nelles. Does coronavirus bring death? Yes, it brings death – into our consciousness. The shock of being so drastically confronted with our own mortality has led to a virtual paralysis of life in order to avoid dying. In this way, the almost global lockdown has inadvertently highlighted something very fundamental: those who cannot or will not die cannot live! The price of the unconditional avoidance of death is the loss of life, of vitality. The coronavirus shows us this. Can we see it?

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Trauma, Illusion and Spirituality 3

Trauma, Illusion and Spirituality 3

We have seen how trauma works physically, how illusion plays a fundamental role in this process, and how the soul itself traumatises us through our consciousness (‘I am’). Trauma comes from the human soul and it is also from the soul that it can be healed. Let us therefore look at the phenomenon of ‘spirituality’ as a general code for accessing the soul, the inner side of our aliveness.

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Counselling

Counselling

Counseling is a process between adults on equal footing. The responsibility for one’s own path remains entirely with those seeking advice; it is not taken away from them. This allows them to discover what steps they are ready to take toward the future.

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couples counselling

couples counselling

In a relationship we either learn over the years to see ourselves and others through adult eyes, or we suffer. The suffering comes from unconscious childhood demands. These cannot be fulfilled by anyone. The point is to transform them into adult needs. Then a whole new world opens up.

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About seeing

To see is to surrender. To see is to recognise love in all that is, even in its blind form. Blind love does not see what is now. It remains bound to what was before. It does not know that the threats of the past have passed. How does it learn to see?

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27-29 October 2017 Shanghai: Chinese-European Conference “Love, Life and Consciousness”

Chinese – European Conference, Nelles Institute China. Let the other culture known by China and let the Chinese culture known by the world. 目的: 让世界文化走进中国,让中国文化走向世界!Main Topics 主要内容: 主要内容:1. Love and relationships in modern times
现代社会的爱与关系 2. Life Science in Chinese Traditional Culture. 中国文化中的生命科学 3. Parents and children 父母和孩子 4. Family, society and the individual 家庭,社会和个人

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Refugees and natives. The human and the foreign

Refugees and natives. The human and the foreign

1. Refugees are human beings. You can see that: they walk upright on two legs, they feel, they think and they speak.
2. Refugees are foreigners. They feel, think and speak differently to us. You can usually see that too.
Let’s see what this little distinction between ‘human beings, i.e. creatures like us’ and ‘foreigners, i.e. different from us’ can reveal, clarify and make understandable.

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Article: How children love, even after becoming adults

Article: How children love, even after becoming adults

Reality always provides me with challenging adaptation patterns of my own past dependent love. They are still at work despite the fact that I am out and alive. Those situations invite me, by sometimes harassing me badly, to perceive them from the inner place of self-love and to take them not personally. So I learn to see what I really had done in dependent love and what my self-love now requires from me. So I learn to love, the love I am. Read more from the lecture I was invited for to Nelles Summer Academy 2016 in Nettersheim, Germany.

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The parents (I): Taking and leaving.

You accept your parents by leaving them. It is both a letting go and a finding. When I, as an adult, give up all internal and external expectations of my father and mother, two things happen at once: I begin to realise my true freedom. At the same time I realise that I am alone. I am completely with myself. I find myself. Just as I am.

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Parents (II): Ideal and Reality

I accept my mother and father as they are, without expecting anything more from them as parents. For most people this sentence would simply be a call to betrayal, to betray their own ideals. That is what it is, and it is necessary. Without this ‘betrayal’ of one’s ideals, without the inner step from the ideal image to the reality of life, no one can grow up inwardly.

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Parents (III): The Return of Childhood Wishes

We cannot see the real people behind the image of our parents as long as we maintain the ideal of them, both in terms of their ‘good’ and ‘bad’ qualities. Nor can we see ourselves, because the ideal of our parents is always linked to an ideal self. Nor can we see the world, at least not as it really is, because our ideal of the world is naturally shaped by our ideal of our parents. One cannot exist without the other. Read more …

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Parents (IV): Letting me be myself.

I accept myself as the child of my parents, just as I am now, without wanting to be different. First of all, I’m not writing here about how to get rid of your ‘patterns’. That’s not possible. And that’s not what this is about. Letting go’ and ‘getting rid of’ are based on the illusion that you can effectively work on yourself. For adults, however, the time for ‘working on yourself’ is over, both in your personal life and in therapy and counselling. Working on yourself is working against yourself. This is about letting yourself be, including your ‘patterns’.

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Article: Movements and Resonance in Constellations

Article: Movements and Resonance in Constellations

I don’t believe in entanglements with our past as an active part of. The past itself can not do anything, and nothing can be done to it. It is over, that’s all. As well: nothing can be done to the future, and the future itself does nothing. It is not here, not yet. The only moment you can do something, and the only moment something can be done to you, is now. Your life is nowhere except in the present moment, and this is the only moment a constellation can be a mirror for. Read more …

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Illness and war

When sick people come to see me, our first work together is to follow their symptoms inwardly. A striking number of symptoms take us back to the middle of the Second World War. They do not yet ‘know’ that peace exists. Now, in the safety of the present, they can find peace.

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Christmas and coincidence

Imagine being able to choose who you want to sit with under the Christmas tree, raiding the gift table and falling into a roast goose coma at the dinner table. That is, if you don’t pass out before dessert because you got a bit confused about who to invite to your dinner party.

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