Reality always provides me with challenging adaptation patterns of my own past dependent love. They are still at work despite the fact that I am out and alive. Those situations invite me, by sometimes harassing me badly, to perceive them from the inner place of self-love and to take them not personally. So I learn to see what I really had done in dependent love and what my self-love now requires from me. So I learn to love, the love I am. Read more from the lecture I was invited for to Nelles Summer Academy 2016 in Nettersheim, Germany.