Author interview about the book
The content, in brief
How can we see ourselves more clearly without blaming ourselves?
Thomas Gessner explores this question by describing
‘how unconscious love shapes our lives out of an inner
necessity.’
Starting from the present, in the first part of the book he looks
at our past, our ‘then.’ How do
teenagers, children or unborn babies
in the womb act, feel and think? It shows how ‘dependent love’
ensures our survival and makes no mistakes in doing so.
In the second part, he examines the other pole of love,
‘self-love.’ It is concerned with growth and has no
interest in survival and control. It seeks fulfilment
and devotion and can lead us to a more relaxed inner
adulthood, to living in the ‘now.’
The third part is about how and why we unconsciously
activate the survival strategies of the past in similar
situations today, such as in conflicts,
symptoms or crises. As soon as we recognise these inner ‘echoes’,
acknowledge them and entrust ourselves to the present,
we become calmer, freer and more powerful inside.
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